One of the most common concerns about training and dream chasing. . . or lack thereof. . . is the essential, but limiting concern of having to take care of a family, to tend to your social circles, and to make time for those who are closest to you. All in simultaneous succession and balance.
As we all are human, we tend to swing between extremes.
We are either swallowed by the guilt-driven needs of others, inevitably losing ourselves. . . or we tend to ourselves to the point of hurting those that we love and care for. There is a limited time allotted in each day, and although it may be difficult to manage this time between personal and family life, it is possible with proper management. With three important principles:
THE COMMUNICATION CLICHE CLICHÉ PRINCIPAL
Predominantly anyone that you converse with will agree that communication is at the top of the list of utmost importance within a relationship. So why do we tend to keep our thoughts and concerns locked up in opposition to this principle?
It is fear. The fear of experiencing or “dealing” with an argument, the fear of misunderstanding one another. Or an even more common case. . . it is a false expectation that our partner and family know what we are thinking or feeling, that they think and feel the same way.
With training you have an obvious need for self-improvement, this need is driven by the positive results of an increase in happiness, confidence, knowledge, and physical results, but no one can assume the reasoning behind these needs unless they are verbalized. Becoming self-aware of your why becomes an essential part of this step. Communication is most effective when executed at the time of thought, and with the other party's possible concerns in mind; do not fear these concerns, address them with care.
Coming to an agreement and strategic plan should be the goal, and although this may not apply to all situations [as the unexpected happens every day] it is a standard for keeping healthy expectations within your family. Delaying the talk may lead to guilt, frustration, mistrust, and confusion. Think about the times that you finally expressed your feelings at the point of being done or of being frustrated; all at the brink of feeling finished.
Unsaid concerns become manifested in destructive ways, instead, we have the choice and liberating feeling of voicing ourselves to our partner, to our friends, and our family. Keep the unexpected in mind in extreme cases, tend to your social and family needs when critically important, and in other cases, take the plunge and personal opportunities that arise; keeping the agreements as the blueprint, but being flexible in extreme circumstances.
We may be moving in opposite directions without even knowing it, the sooner that these expectations are set by having a conversation, the sooner that you bring awareness to your personal status. From this, comes understanding.